Monday, November 21, 2011

Marriage Monday: Got Time?!


I am spending quite an elongated period of TIME solo.  It's one of the "burdens" of marrying a brilliant man; I share him with the company sometimes!  I need to stay proud and supportive and remember that he's missing me just as much as I'm missing him.

As I swallow the fact that this holiday will be...lonely without him different...I am still thankful for so many things.  One of those things is TIME!  First off, I've been most comforted by the realization that God holds and controls all my TIME...til death!  He knows...He cares...none of this is a surprise to Him.

I'm thankful...because my sweet Loverbrains is willing to work so hard and so well, I am able to stay home and focus my full attention on the love and care of my children.  I have the TIME to slow down and play games, watch cartoons, snuggle on weekends.  While I'm at it I also have TIME for myself...sewing, reading...blogging.

I'm thankful for the things that occupy my TIME during the days and nights...activities, friends, gym memberships, bible studies, playdates, ministries...When sad and upset I generally tend towards being an isolationist.  I want to pull back and away, hole up and have a grand pity party for myself.  BUT...that's just what Satan would like me to, I'm not.  I'm going to get out and do things and be THANKFUL...cuz He's worthy of my praise!!

I'm thankful for the TIME I live in...where technology is full of helps...Where would we be without phone calls and SKYPE!?  I try to makes those TIMES of connection special.  We gather things throughout the day that we want to show DadE!  How special...I've never really considered the blessings of technology in my marriage til now!   

A comforting thought came to me only recently...I realized that this stressful TIME is just a drip in the bucket of our marriage.  We will look back at it...and barely remember it.  Even if it feels HUGE right now...It'll be but a snippet in our future.  We're gonna grow old together...I'm not, we've got TIME ahead!

Grow old along with me
The best is yet to be
When our time has come
We will be as one

God bless our love
God bless our love

Grow old along with me
Two branches of one tree
Face the setting sun
When the day is done
God bless our love
God bless our love

Spending our lives together
Man and wife together
World without end
World without end

Grow old along with me
Whatever [God] decrees
We will see it through
For our love is true

God bless our love
God bless our love 

by John Lennon and Robert Browning
(I changed the word fate to God...cuz it bugs me.  Why would I be saying God bless our love...if I don't also acknowledge that God puts any and all decrees on my life.  Duh!)


Messy Marriage said...

Love this! I'm so glad that you are staying thankful and it's making all the difference. Thanks for reminding all of us of this need. Also, thanks for changing "fate" to "God." It really is all about Him!

Mac an Rothaich said...

Oh I am drawn to isolate when lonely too... hard to not be lonely when we do that to ourselves. I am glad Christ reaches out to those of us like that and reminds us he is still there, he wants us to use our time well and you are so right, the enemy would love us to just sulk. I am sure you are a blessing to so many so get out there for their sake and yours! Lovely post!

Barbara H. said...

I never knew that poem had been turned into a song.

Great lessons, all.

Joyce said...

I hope you enjoy your Thanksgiving and its special in some way. I totally get the 'time apart' thing due to work and there are days that are harder than others. Finding the joy in every day have a good attitude. And you are definitely not old : )

Blue Cotton Memory said...

I have an awesome husband like that - God has blessed with a vision beyond my capabilities that allows me to be mom and wife! I have discovered that time a part creates a clean house and I love it for a few days and then there is the adjustment period after the return where expectations need to be readjusted. Right now, he's not traveling as much - but there have been seasons when he's been gone more than here in a year - but God knows the plan:)Wishing you out-of-the-box blessing this Thanksgiving!

Tami Boesiger said...

Sigh. Your missing your husband comes out loud and clear. But I love the way you are making the most of the time apart. I love your focus on the positive and the temporary. You are a great example. Thank you.

nice A said...

Inspiring post! I love this song about growing old together, Bobbi. I'll send my hubby a copy of it today on his birthday.

It's good you realized that when you're upset it's not good to isolate and pity party and instead, you get out and do things and be thankful. I love this part as I used to do it before but now I have a lot of positive things to do if I'm feeling bad. My toddler is learning the song in The Sound of Music that reminds me "to remember my favorite things, then I won't feel so bad..." Yes, there are a lot of things to be thankful.

Thank you for stopping by my MM post.

e-Mom said...

Wonderful!!! You have such a healthy attitude, Bobbi.

Honestly, I've come to savor those times when e-Dad is out of town. YES, we miss each other, of course. But we text throughout the day, and it's OK.

I like the freedom to have a meal at any old time, stay up late reading etc. etc. Sounds like you've got some wonderful activities all figured out.

Thanks for linking up for Marriage Monday, today!